Christians and divorce, that is divorce and the bible is about how Christians should view marriage based on what is outlined in the Bible.
Marriage is something that means a lot to God.
Let marriage be honorable among all, and the marriage bed be without defilement, for God will judge fornicators and adulterers.
Remember God himself instituted the first marriage (see christian views on marriage). And therefore Christians know not to take it lightly. Sadly many people today redefine marriage to suit their agendas getting divorce on all sorts of ground and many of the Christian churches tolerate these type of divorce of its members.
The bible makes the ground for divorce very clear to Christians in different bible verses.
And the Pharisees came up to him, with the intent on tempting him and saying:
"Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife on every sort of ground?"
In reply he said:
"Did you not read that he who created them from the beginning made them male and female and said, 'For this reason a man will leave his father and his mother and will stick to his wife, and the two will be one flesh? So that they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore, what God has yoked together let no man put apart."
They said to him:
"Why, then, did moses prescribe giving a certificate of dismissal and divorcing her?"
He said to them:
"Moses, out of regard for hardheartedness made the concession to you of divorcing your wives, but such has not been the case from beginning. I say to you that whoever divorces his wife, except on the ground of fornication, and marries another commits adultery."
Malachi 2: 15b, 16a
And you people must guard yourselves respecting your spirit, and with the wife of your youth may no one deal treacherously. For he has hated a divorcing, Jehovah the God of Israel has said.
However, I say to you that everyone divorcing his wife, except on the account of fornication, makes her a subject for adultery, and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery.
Everyone that divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery, and he that marries a woman divorced from a husband commits adultery.
If a spouse finds herself or himself in a marriage that is life threatening or some other situation that makes leaving together impossible then the bible suggests separation instead but without the benefit of remarrying.
And that is because during their weddding the couple made a vow to stay together "for better, for worse"; so even when they have to stay apart, from God's view point they are still married and therefore not free to remarry. Until there is proof that one of them has broken their vow by commiting adultery then the spouse cheated on may decide to get a divorce.
I Corinthians 7:10-11
To the married people I give instructions, yet not I but the Lord, that a wife should not depart from her husband; but if she should actually depart, let her remain unmarried or else make up again with her husband; and a husband should not leave his wife.
I Corinthians 7:12b-16
If any brother has an unbelieving wife, and she is agreeable to dwelling with him, let him not leave her. And a woman who has an unbelieving husband, and yet he is agreeable to dwelling with her, let her not leave her husband. For the unbelieving husband is sanctified in relation to his wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified in relation to the brother; otherwise your children would really be unclean, but now they are holy. But if the unbelieving one proceeds to depart, let him depart; a brother or sister is not in servitude under such circumstances, but God has called you to peace.
For, wife, how do you know but that you will save your husband? Or, husband, how do you know but that you will save your wife?
God according to the scriptures above allows Christians who are cheated on to get divorce from their mate. But it doesn't require them to. Meaning if you want to, you can but it's not your only option either. A spouse cheated on can also decide to work things out with his or her mate and continue with the marriage and God will bless them.
But become kind to one another, tenderly compassionate, freely forgiving one another just as God also by Christ freely forgave you.
Matthew 6:14, 15
For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly father will also fogive you. Whereas if you do not forgive men their trespasses, neither will your father forgive your trespasses.
The spouse should follow the legal requirement and traditional requirement if any of getting a divorce. Aside the legal dissolution of marriage, in some tradition if it's the woman that is seeking the divorce she has to return the bride price paid on her.
Whoever divorces his wife, let him give her a certificate of divorce.
Christian mates should put the effort to hold on to their marriage even in hardship out of respect for the divine origin of marriage. Moreover, as true Christians we are to be examples to others. People should out of our good conduct draw close to God. That is why we want to put in the necessary effort to maintain a happy marriage. And that's easier if we honestly let the bible guide our actions.
Mignon McLaughlin said:
A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person.
And to back that up I Corinthians 13:4-8a says:
Love is long-suffering and kind. Love is not jealous, it does not brag, does not get puffed up, does not behave indecently, does not look for its own interests, does not become provoked. It does not keep account of the injury. It does not rejoice over unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things endures all things. Love never fails.
Proverbs 5:18, 19
Let your water source prove to be blessed, and rejoice with the wife of your youth, a lovable hind and a charming mountain goat. Let her own breasts intoxicate you at all times. With her love may you be in an ecstasy constantly.
I Corinthians 7:3-5
Let the husband render to his wife her due; but let the wife also do likewise to her husband. The wife does not exercise authority over her own body, but her husband does; likewise, also, the husband does not exercise authority over his own body, but his wife does. Do not be depriving each other of it, except by mutual consent for an appointed time, that you may come together again, that Satan may not keep tempting you for your lack of self-regulation.
Finally God's warning to those divorcing their spouse on other grounds except on the ground of fornication:
I Corinthians 6:9, 10
What! Do you not know that unrighteous persons will not inherit God's kingdom? Do not be misled. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor men kept for unnatural purposes, not thieves, nor greedy persons, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit God's kingdom.
All marriage scriptures quotes about christians and divorce are from The New World translation of the Holy Scriptures.
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